Not all of it! We food-sensitive people have to realize that this is what happens! Wonderful friends and relations want to cook a meal for you and are fairly sure they know what you can eat. Some are wonderful and ask “Is a little rosemary OK?” or “I don’t use much cinnamon in my cake. We don’t like it too strong ourselves.”
Each food sensitive person works on their diet until they get what works for them. Small misunderstandings can occur. You may tolerate a small amount of lactose-free milk, and a small amount of soy milk when they eat at your place, and they think you can have unlimited amounts. You know you can eat a wider range of fruit if it is very sweet.
One of the annoying downsides of having a low chemical diet, with or without any sensitivity to wheat, wholegrain wheat or any form of dairy, is that you have to do the thinking about any problem that may arise. Remind yourself about the up-side of how wonderful the diet was when you first went on it and you no longer had those most annoying symptoms. Frequent problems include being served meat that has been stuffed or marinaded, desserts with dried fruit, or flavours. (My wonderful relations in Italy added grappa to enhance the flavour of nashi pear which grows well there!) Friends often know you don’t drink wine but forget you don’t have grapes for the same reason.
What can you do? Think ahead. Take your favourite savoury foods (including tolerated potato crisps, nuts and plain rice crackers to have with that one slice of Camembert cheese you occasionally allow yourself.) You can chat beforehand about plain meats, no sauces, and whether they make home-made gravy in the pan (depending on your amine tolerance). You may have to remind people a few times before they remember that you have to exclude tomato. In summer you can offer to make the cold-slaw. Dilute the least-problem commercial mayonnaise with milk or cream, with a little added sweet syrup to the finely chopped cabbage and sweet carrot.
And you can make the dessert. Go to the Recipe section on the front of my home-page https://foodintolerancepro.com/category/recipes/page/2/ and look for the recipe for never-fail Pavlova, or use the Sago Plum Pudding made with fruit that is often tolerated. Take your own tolerated vodka and also take enough soda water for others to enjoy. Then you may decide to make your own cornflour custard with rice, soy or dairy milks, or a mixture of these. Or just take the cream. Or a vanilla ice cream if you tolerate vanilla. Sometimes you just make a decision to have the food served, especially if your friend cooks traditional fairly plain food, and put up with some small degree of symptoms. Many people report that they have a lesser reaction to foods if they have a urinary alkaliser (such as Ural or plain white Enos) when they get home.
Overall it can add up to you doing quite a bit of cooking. But this has the advantage that other see what yummy food you can have and that you are not a spoil-sport when it comes to enjoying food.
Remember to look back at your copy or obtain your own copy of Tolerating Troublesome Foods for ideas on how to test foods so you tolerate as much as possible. And you can read why urinary alkalisers are useful https://foodintolerancepro.com/product/tolerating-troublesome-foods/
Happy New Year!